Why doesn't our mind let go of certain people when it knows we need to?

I think this woman you speak of is confused. She most likely wants you and she's trying to stop her urges. She doesn't want to be bi or even lesbian. She could be a lesbian trying to stop her urges by forcing herself to like men/telling you she has a boyfriend. This is probably where all her anger comes from, her bipolar attitude. About that song you put on here, I didn't think it was punk. I just stated that punk music is music I can't listen to, it haunts me. The song you put up was okay, but wasn't my type of music. Look for any religious jewelry on this woman you speak of. Or anything that may be a hint of religion, anything religious. I couldn't answer your other questions very well because I had some powerful headaches. It's not always religion that makes her not want to be a lesbian. Hope this helps.